Making Transformational Changes Permanent
Diane Zimberoff, MFCC & David Hartman, MSW

In healing work, we recognize the interconnectedness of the whole person. We go to the deepest levels of early trauma and resolve what was left unresolved. True healing clears up the problem, symptom and cause, leaving the person healthy and prepared to fight off future infections, be they physical or emotional. In transformational work, we see symptoms as a clue to deeper spiritual issues with which the person is involved. Symptoms can actually lead through the deeper emotional work, clearing out ego issues that block spiritual connection. For example, a person who is continually upset with his/her relationship partner is so preoccupied with these projections that it prevents him/her from looking deeper, to the real source of the hurt and anger.
Following are what we can expect when we make these transformational changes permanent in our lives and in our relationships.

1. We refrain from dissociation and instead are fully present in every moment. Rather than use daydreaming, withdrawal, or addictive behaviors to dissociate, to numb the pain from childhood wounds, we embrace every moment as a unique opportunity.
2. We are clear enough to base our daily choices on our intuitive knowledge, wisdom and love rather than on fear. We experience and trust our inner knowing about what is in our highest good, with a deep certainty of discernment between the "fear voice" and the "clear voice." Transformational work strengthens the "clear voice" and diminishes the fear to a healthy whisper instead of a distracting roar.
3. We learn to identify and use positive energy and not "take on" negative energy.
   In transformational work, energy awareness and management is of utmost importance. We learn to recognize and then transmute negative energy into positive energy.
4. We live in integrity.
   The word integrity means integration. We bring our "private self" and "public self" into congruency. Living as an integrated person eliminates self-consciousness, anxiety about being an imposter, defensiveness and secrets, and promotes honesty, commitment and trustworthiness.
5. We spiritually manifest what we say we want.
   We can manifest what we want only when, on a deeply unconscious level, we feel worthy and deserving, and when all unconscious decisions and beliefs support getting it.
6. We accept ourselves for who we are, acknowledging the continued growth we desire.
   The power of transformational work is that it becomes a life path. It is important to continue to give ourselves unconditional love and acceptance, even though we are "works in progress" and our transformation is not yet complete.
7. We heal and resolve our unhealthy relationships, and begin attracting healthy ones.
   We attract healthy, equal relationships in which both people are adults and neither feels emotionally, physically or financially dependent on the other. This is true in our relationships with family members, co-workers, bosses and neighbors, but also with money, authorities, nature, and time.
8. We freely express our emotions spontaneously through healthy release.
   We identify our emotions through being aware of the bodily sensations that accompany a feeling, and release these emotions in a way that doesn’t hurt another person or property. We do not project unacknowledged or repressed feelings onto others.
9. We are current, not unfinished, in every interaction of every relationship.
   We complete and forgive unfinished relationships, interpersonally and karmically, and recognize that every relationship represents an opportunity to look at our deepest issues and heal them.
10. We are prepared for a conscious death, no matter how unexpectedly it may come.
    A conscious death is one that is accepted with emotional equanimity and spiritual confidence. Even though Mahatma Gandhi was suddenly and violently murdered the only words on his lips and in his heart were, "Ram, Ram, Ram" which means God. He was so connected to God in every moment of life that he was not angry or scared or blaming in the moment of his death.
11. We recognize the karmic patterns being fulfilled, and stop creating new karma (accept that "I am 100% responsible for my experience of my life").
    A powerful way to work through karmic issues is to become aware of our individual karmic lessons in this lifetime. We always focus on "the Soul lesson to be learned from this experience." It is only by seeing the bigger picture of our lives that we heal and release the old karmic patterns. Once we get the lesson, we no longer need to repeat it, and our Soul can reach its ultimate destination. This is the highest goal of this work.

Transformation delivers us from a state of captivity (fate, karma, based on our past actions) to a liberated state (destiny, dharma, based on our purpose or destination, what we choose to be and do). However, we cannot really know what we want to be and do, and exercise that purposeful choice, until we are freed from the fateful consequences of our unconscious tendencies. "When, through the process and practice of transformation, we no longer experience ourselves as victims of our fate, we can become masters of our destiny."
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